Lessons From Queen Elizabeth II: What She Taught Me

After our longest reigning monarch’s passing in September 2022, I reflected on timeless lessons from Queen Elizabeth II; the things she taught me even though we never met.

Updated September 2025

The evening after Queen Elizabeth II passed away, my family and I were driving back to Ely after dinner in Cambridge. As you approach Ely, the Cathedral Tower rises up over The Fens. It’s always visible from a long way away, but on this particular evening, The Octagon Tower was lit in purple in memory of and to honour Queen Elizabeth II. It was impressive, moving and very beautiful, so we drove to the city to see up close. 

As I stood in the shadow of the historic cathedral, I reflected on the life of our late monarch. She has been such a constant in my life, a symbol of unity and a reassuring presence in challenging times. I thought about how much I looked up to Queen Elizabeth II, and the lessons she, and her life, taught me – despite the fact we never actually met.

Lessons From Queen Elizabeth II

What I do each day really matters

There are times we all feel like we are insignificant or that we lack influence. While this may be true from time to time, most of us have no idea just how much effect our actions have in and on the world.

As the Queen Elizabeth II pointed out, “In times of doubt and anxiety the attitudes people show in their daily lives, in their homes, and in their work, are of supreme importance.”

The stranger you smile at or say hello to as you walk down the street, the patience you demonstrate as you wait in line at the coffee shop or grocery store, the compliment you give someone, the care you take when you make a meal, all of these tiny actions make a difference to the people involved – and to the people who they come into contact with afterwards. 

Our individual, seemingly unimportant, daily actions all combine to make a difference in the lives of others. The ripple effect means we can change the world. Of all the lessons from Queen Elizabeth II , this feels like one of the most important.

Small steps can lead to big progress

In her 2019 Christmas message, Queen Elizabeth II pointed out that “It’s worth remembering that it is often the small steps, not the giant leaps, that bring about the most lasting change.” This is profoundly true when we look at world history, but it also has practical application in our personal lives. 

Since then, I have endeavoured to remember to break large or daunting tasks down into smaller, more achievable chunks. When I act on this royal advice, the results speak for themselves. 

It’s okay to make mistakes

Queen Elizabeth II had her share of challenges in her reign and things didn’t always go to plan. However, she adjusted her course each time and her future actions demonstrated that she had learned from the experience. I can only hope I react to and learn from my many mistakes as gracefully as she did. 

“Each day is a new beginning, I know that the only way to live my life is to try to do what is right, to take the long view, to give of my best in all that the day brings, and to put my trust in God.”

HM Queen Elizabeth II

People will remember how you made them feel

One of the things I often hear about Queen Elizabeth II is that she made people feel like they were the only person in the room. I experienced this myself a few years ago at Royal Ascot. As she and the Duke of Edinburgh passed close to us in their carriage, I was quite sure she looked right at me with a wonderful twinkle in her eye. I was walking on air for the rest of the day. 

I have no doubt others standing near me felt the exactly the same way. I’m not sure exactly who she really did look at, but each of us was convinced we were the one. The Queen had a real gift for making people feel seen.  

Speak confidently about your faith

It can be daunting expressing our beliefs, but when we share, we can encourage and support one another. Whatever your faith, it’s important you speak confidently of it to inspire others.

“To many of us, our beliefs are of fundamental importance. For me the teachings of Christ and my own personal accountability before God provide a framework in which I try to lead my life. I, like so many of you, have drawn great comfort in difficult times from Christ’s words and his example.” HM Queen Elizabeth II

Never underestimate the importance of fun

There are so many photographs of Queen Elizabeth II smiling and laughing – and making those around her smile and laugh as well. It is said that she loved the outdoors, her horses, her hobbies (which at times included photography, gardening and stamp collecting) and of course, spending time with her family.

It’s easy to feel guilty about taking time out, but Queen Elizabeth II example shows us that it’s okay to make time for the things we enjoy.

Just a Few Of The Lessons from Queen Elizabeth II

These are just some of the things I learned from Queen Elizabeth II. She lived a vibrant life of service, grace and duty, and she spread a great deal of wisdom and joy. If I can emulate even a little of her curiosity, zest for life and enthusiasm, I will be very happy indeed.